I don’t need a hubby or a baby…

I was watching The Tyra Banks Show the other day, which I don’t do often because she kind of bugs me but this one caught my eye. It was all about being single vs. being married. There was a panel of single women and a panel of married women. The single women were saying they don’t need a husband or a baby to feel fulfilled and they enjoy being independent, which they think women lose once they get married. The married women were saying being single is selfish and you’re not truly fulfilled until you find the love of your life and have a baby. So which attitude do you think is right, if any?

I think both views were a little prejudice and stereotypical but I’m curious to see what others think… I think all of the controversy is very interesting and “singleism” as they worded it can be discriminated against, as can the family life. I am obviously married and just had my first baby but I don’t feel like there is anything wrong with being single, whether its by choice or chance. Part of me always wanted to be single forever and have a big career but I knew, for me, that wasn’t what was best. I never craved the married life though, it just happened and even though I love it and wouldn’t trade my husband or my son for anything, I miss parts of the single life still. I know many single women get a lot of pressure to get married, whether they are interested or not. I hate it when people are prejudice against people that are single, one of my best friends is single and it works just fine even if we don’t hang out quite the same as we used to. I also don’t understand single people that are desperate to be married, I guess because I loved it when I was single and I love being married now that I am. I think if you live up the single life and enjoy it without worrying about getting married, youll be happy where you’re at and if marriage is in the cards, it may just work out for you quicker than if you wait around for it… I actually feel more prejudism towards married people from single people. Most my married friends will always invite our single friends to things but some of our single friends are anti “the marrieds” as they call them, they just write anyone off who gets married, which makes them really frustrated because more and more of them are getting married. I can see how that would be frustrating but if you are thriving in the single world and mature about it, you’re not going to feel like you have no friends. Are some of these prejudisms because of envy of the “other side” and used as a cover-up?