Post Pregnancy BLISS

You’ve just had a baby; you feel a sense of euphoria, you love the way it has changed you and you have accepted your new body and well life is just perfect! …..yeah right! Like Megan mentioned in a comment before, the period after you have a baby isn’t really talked about and guess what, it’s hard and it just plain sucks sometimes! So I want to talk about it! I think there is this idea out there that once your baby is here, everything is supposed to be wonderful, and why wouldn’t it be? You have a sweet, innocent bundle of joy that many people, who maybe aren’t as lucky, envy you for. Babies are a great blessing but there’s a little bad mixed in with all that good. Plus everyone is always telling you to enjoy these times because they GROW SO FAST, which is true, but that doesn’t mean it is all smiles and giggles. There’s a lot of poo, pee and spit up to deal with, let alone feeling like you’re completely CRAZY because your emotions are worse than when you were pregnant, you might have a hard time breast feeding or choose not to and there’s guilt with that because BREAST FEEDING IS BEST and then every time you turn around you feel like someone is JUDGING your parenting skills and evaluating what kind of a parent you will be. Oh and you’ve just realized those 30 to 60 pounds you’ve gained WASN’T all baby weight! You can’t fit into any clothes, you feel too young to be a mom and even if you can find something to wear to go out and maybe even get a babysitter, well you just might not want to, either you’re too tired or you just plain feel DEPRESSED and want to sit at home and do NOTHING (where’s the spontanaeity?). Yes, I said DEPRESSED! Even if you don’t have to deal with full on post-partum depression, I think every woman feels parts of it after having a baby. It could just be because youre down because you’re frustrated or all of the hormones; nothing you do makes you feel any better and you find yourself staring at a blank wall for who knows how long and getting extremely frustrated every time your sweet baby cries or fusses. You’re supposed to be this SUPER MOM you’ve always imagined right? But really most days you don’t even want to get dressed, let alone shower… (or work on losing all that baby weight). Most of this has nothing to do with your baby, yes they can be frustrating sometimes, especially if you have a fussy baby but most of it is because you had the baby and even though the best thing you’ll ever have came out of that and yeah it’s WORTH IT, it’s hard and it takes a while to feel normal and like yourself again. Also, I don’t think I have gained back the 15% of brain cells I lost when I was pregnant… When does that come back? Or does it…?

Thanks for listening! Sorry I’m a little CRAZY right now!

I don’t need a hubby or a baby…

I was watching The Tyra Banks Show the other day, which I don’t do often because she kind of bugs me but this one caught my eye. It was all about being single vs. being married. There was a panel of single women and a panel of married women. The single women were saying they don’t need a husband or a baby to feel fulfilled and they enjoy being independent, which they think women lose once they get married. The married women were saying being single is selfish and you’re not truly fulfilled until you find the love of your life and have a baby. So which attitude do you think is right, if any?

I think both views were a little prejudice and stereotypical but I’m curious to see what others think… I think all of the controversy is very interesting and “singleism” as they worded it can be discriminated against, as can the family life. I am obviously married and just had my first baby but I don’t feel like there is anything wrong with being single, whether its by choice or chance. Part of me always wanted to be single forever and have a big career but I knew, for me, that wasn’t what was best. I never craved the married life though, it just happened and even though I love it and wouldn’t trade my husband or my son for anything, I miss parts of the single life still. I know many single women get a lot of pressure to get married, whether they are interested or not. I hate it when people are prejudice against people that are single, one of my best friends is single and it works just fine even if we don’t hang out quite the same as we used to. I also don’t understand single people that are desperate to be married, I guess because I loved it when I was single and I love being married now that I am. I think if you live up the single life and enjoy it without worrying about getting married, youll be happy where you’re at and if marriage is in the cards, it may just work out for you quicker than if you wait around for it… I actually feel more prejudism towards married people from single people. Most my married friends will always invite our single friends to things but some of our single friends are anti “the marrieds” as they call them, they just write anyone off who gets married, which makes them really frustrated because more and more of them are getting married. I can see how that would be frustrating but if you are thriving in the single world and mature about it, you’re not going to feel like you have no friends. Are some of these prejudisms because of envy of the “other side” and used as a cover-up?

Working from home

I started working from home about two weeks ago, when I was 38 weeks along. I’m one of those people who thrive on stress and I was worried I would get bored working from home and go crazy… but so far its been great! Almost too busy, I don’t know how I’m going to throw a baby into this mix in a few weeks! I know there will be days I wish I could just go into the office to relax so I may need some reminders on how lucky I am to work from home…